A week ago, I got an email saying I got into Barnard College. A day later, my parents decided to get practical — getting my brother into a decent university.
I’ve talked about my brother a few times as I remember, especially in this one entry. Long story short, I see him as the “Golden Asian Boy” because we’re different in various respects. Despite being five years younger than me, he has been consistently getting straight-A’s and doing well in sports than I was at his age. I can’t really argue that he’s been through more than I have; we have all been through different things and in different ways, so that’s not really relative. Or is it?
Anyway, ever since I got into Barnard my parents decided to start whipping my 12-year old brother (let’s call him N) into shape. I don’t really know if it’s an “Asian” thing to do, getting particularly your sons ready to go to a fantastic university like Harvard, Princeton, Yale or MIT. My parents never did that to me, because “you’re the girl; we don’t have heavy expectations on you as we do on your brother.” Right.
I don’t really think it’s necessarily supposed to insinuate that my brother is and always has been better than me (because I do believe that is the case). That being said, I’m not sure if this motive is totally driven by either (a) the “Asian parent” psychology or (b) the whole idea that boys deserve more than girls for their future. Or even both, to be completely fair.
Of course, I think N deserves to go to a good school, but how are we to know whether or not he is actually suited to go to the particular school? Just because he gets good grades and has good athletic abilities, not to mention the fact that he’s a pretty decent photographer to some extent, does it really mean that he has what it takes to, well, appeal and “market” himself to I don’t know, Harvard. To be honest, it’s too early to say for sure. They’re changing the SAT, for instance. Should they be waiting until then?